10 strangers, 6 realizations, 1 foreign country

A couple of months ago, I decided to dive into something I never knew I would possibly do. I signed up for a two week personal and professional program with WiFly Nomads to help me become a digital nomad.

Being a digital nomad was something I always saw the adventurous and brave do. There were endless thoughts and sleepless nights I dreamt of doing it, but never in a thousand years did I think I would do it. And that alone made all the difference.

I was excited to fly off to Bali for two weeks and learn more about this lifestyle that I craved. All thanks to the ten strangers who instantly became such amazing friends, I’ve created bridges to cross some gaps I felt I was missing in my life.

Fear only lasts for 20 seconds

A friend of mine on the program said she lives by the motto that, “fear only lasts for 20 seconds.”

The idea of fear only lasts for a fragment, and sometimes we’re more fearful of what happens after we reach our destination. Sometimes we fear success. Other times we fear “fear” itself.

Whatever your fear may be, know that it’s only a fragment of your thoughts.

Once you do it for 20 seconds, then you conquered it.

Cross the bridge when you get there

You can map everything in life from the beginning to end if you truly wanted. That plan rarely ever goes the way we anticipated.

The worst thing you can ever do is continuously put life on hold for the “just in case” and painted scenarios of what might one day occur.

There is no anticipating when the bridge will arrive, and you can only cross it when that time comes. Sometimes it’s as simple as being patient. And when that bridge arrives, then will you truly know your real potential and strength to cross it.

Be accountable for more than yourself

Life is hard, and one of the greatest things you could ever do is find someone to enjoy the journey with. I was lucky enough to find such amazing people who asked the hard questions, pushed boundaries and continuously cared for my success. Find those kind of people. Find your tribe.

“You can do whatever you want”

There was a point on the trip where I wanted a beer for lunch but thought what my group would think of me. As the words slipped from the tip of my mouth, my friend laughed and said, “You can do whatever you want.”

This true; I could do whatever I wanted.

Daily obligations and current situations may limit you, but let that only be temporary. You have the freedom and the power to do whatever you want to do. Sometimes the only person really stopping you is yourself.


I tried surfing for the first time while I was in Bali and was more than eager to just get up on the board. With every wave that came my way, I jumped on the opportunity without much thought and threw every technique I learned out the window. Of course, I ended up tumbling back into the ocean.

It was until my instructor finally told me to “relax.” So simple, yet incredibly powerful. What do you know? I rode my first wave the moment after.

It’s all about value

We live in a society where everything almost has a dollar value. There’s a dollar value for that acai bowl you ate, for that online course and even self-help services. While we live our day to day life, sometimes the dollar value ends up dictating how we truly live our lives.

Take the dollar out of the equation because it runs deeper than that. Can you put a dollar value on deep connections? Or that exhilarating feeling of riding a surfboard for the first time? Or getting lost in the middle of a foreign country with zero gas in the scooter?

Probably not. You can never put a dollar value on your personal adventures.

Originally published at akinamarie.com.




Human who likes to write about human things: mindfulness, connections, and five-line stories. http://www.akinamarie.com

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Akina Marie Chargualaf

Akina Marie Chargualaf

Human who likes to write about human things: mindfulness, connections, and five-line stories. http://www.akinamarie.com

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