It’s About Rewording: The Art and Care of Our Words

Words have the power to make, shift and move almost anything and anyone. It also has the power to do good and with that the power to also harm and destroy. This also includes the things we tell ourselves without consciously being aware and sometimes you’ll be amazed at how many conversations we carry with ourselves every day.

What do you want to do with your life VS what are one of the things you want to do in life

Living in this day in age with unlimited opportunities can be both a blessing and a distraction. We’re often asked, “what do you want to do with your life?” and in many cases, we are drawn with either a blank or a small idea. Some of us may have invested so much time and money getting that degree, forgetting the fact that sometimes passions change. Others may have jumped straight into the workforce. As a result, we might tend to get overwhelmed at the fact there isn’t that “main” thing we want to do.

Life’s not about having one passion or one purpose — sure there can be the main purpose, but there’s so much more to see, do, try and explore. It’s all about having multiples because as humans, we’re all made up of all these elements.

What has the world done for me VS what can I give back to the world

I recently picked up the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson and one thing he touches on is entitlement. We live in a world where we feel entitled to certain things because:

1) shitty things have happened to us

2) because we think we’re awesome and deserve the good shit. Either way, we’re entitled to feel a certain way because certain things happened.

Here’s the harsh reality: The universe doesn’t owe any of us anything. I have so guiltily thought the world owed me because of all the good I’ve done and because of all the not so great things that have happened along the way.

The world doesn’t owe me anything, but the world also continues to bless me with things and it’s deep mindset work that will determine how I see these strings of moments. Remember you’re as human as the person sitting next to you — regardless of how much he or she has done or how much you’ve done; and the best thing you can give back to the world is your hand in helping others.

Why am I single VS what do I still have to learn

Yes, this one was a long time coming. I have no idea how many people asked me if I was in a relationship just this year alone — it’s only May, guys. I get it — I got some pretty good jokes up my sleeves and I make a pretty badass cold brew.

Instead of beating yourself down, ask yourself what is there still to learn about you? Because I’ll tell you what I learned: I learned that detachment is the key to moving on. I learned that enjoying my own company is one of the hardest things I had to experience and you can not truly love yourself without being friends with yourself first. I also learned how to be a parent to myself which includes all the not fun stuff like waking up early and showing up on the days I don’t feel up to it — but will benefit me in the long run. What also surprised me were all the little things that cause a lot of the fights with my partner when I was in a relationship.

There’s an art and care to how we word things.

There’s also an art and care to how we hold conversations with our souls.

Originally published at on May 25, 2018.




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Akina Marie Chargualaf

Akina Marie Chargualaf

Human who likes to write about human things: mindfulness, connections, and five-line stories.

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